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I’m a trader at heart. . . except that I don’t like trades that come out equally–that’s too much like borrowing. I’d rather trade a strong hand for a patient ear or a story for a meal: anything that keeps things turning over.
—Gordon Bok
There is an old saying that there are just two kinds of people in the world: givers and takers. Those of us who are givers delight in it. We have a buck to lend when someone is broke, a kind word when they’re down, a helping hand when they need it. But sometimes we givers are uncomfortable when we’re on the receiving end. We brush off thanks and gifts and help, even when they’re needed or deserved.
Those of us who are takers, on the other hand, know how to receive graciously what others have to give; we know how to ask for what we need. Often, however, we don’t know how to give. We may be afraid our gifts will be wrong or rejected or laughed at.
We can all strive to become traders, people who have learned how to both give and receive. We each have the capacity to give what we have freely and to ask, gratefully, for what we don’t have. That is the greatest gift of all.
What can I give and take today?
From Today’s Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.
Posted in: addiction counseling, addiction recovery for men, addiction treatment professionals, atlanta treatment centers, certified addiction counselors, excellence in addiction counseling, live life drug free, men in recovery, purple residential treatment, residential addiction treatment
The residential addiction counseling and recovery program is structured as a four – six month program and consists of three primary components:
1. A safe, supportive, structured, drug and alcohol-free living environment where the client is immersed in sobriety as a way of life and surrounded by a group of his peers all with the common goal of acquiring and maintaining sobriety.
2. Group sessions led by certified addiction counselors with varied life and scholastic experiences in a non-judgmental, loving atmosphere.
3. Participation in the recovery community and attendance at 12-step meetings everyday develops a sense of ownership for one’s own recovery and often leads to opportunities to give back to the recovery community.
Included in this treatment structure are:
• Screening & Intake, Assessment & Treatment Planning
Each individual will be thoroughly interviewed for appropriateness to the program and will have an opportunity to interview staff as well. Upon admission, each client will be oriented to “the way we do things.” We will discuss with him the things that brought him here and what he hopes to accomplish while he is here. Together we will develop goals and a plan for his sober recovery.
Some of the tools used to accomplish those goals are:
• Step Work – clients will work towards completing 12-step assignments as a means of uncovering causes and conditions for their substance abuse
• Weekly Goal Setting - setting small goals on a weekly basis enables the client to track his progress without feeling overwhelmed
• Life Skills Education – an important introduction to sober living out there in the real world – finding and keeping a job, completing or continuing his education, buying groceries, preparing his own meals and money management
• Spiritual Life Group – a group session focusing on developing a relationship with one’s higher power and one’s self
• Anger Management – learning to respond, rather than react, to life’s situations and becoming willing to explore the fear that is the fuel of our anger
• Addiction Issues – getting to the “real” reasons we use drugs and alcohol to change the way we feel and exploring a new way of thinking and living that is based on sobriety as a way of life
• Recreation Therapy – life is more fun without alcohol and drugs; we can prove it!
• Drug and Alcohol Testing – regular and random screening to ensure they remain drug and alcohol free
• Family Support Groups – healing the family unit is as important as healing the alcoholic or addict to promote healthy, happy relationships
As the client progresses in his recovery and nears the time for him to leave the residential program, together we address:
• Relapse Prevention – an integral part of the recovery process developed to give the client tools for staying sober even in the midst of depression and challenging times
• Transition Planning – an in-depth plan used in conjunction with the relapse prevention plan to address ongoing recovery needs and to foster a smooth transition to the next phase of his recovery
• Aftercare – each client who has successfully completed the residential program is encouraged to attend ongoing group therapy, outings, and events which will solidify his own sobriety and offer hope to the new clients.
There is no such thing as graduation from treatment. As part of a continuum of care, completion of the residential program leads to aftercare and ongoing self-care through involvement in the 12-step community. We encourage all of our clients to be active in our alumni program so that we can continue to support their ongoing recovery.
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Life is change … Growth is optional… Choose wisely…
—Karen Kaiser Clark
We can certainly count on change. We become fathers, our children become more independent, we make new friends, and other friends move away. When a man clings too tightly to the status quo or tries to control the direction of change, he is bound to be disappointed. We are like skiers on a mountain. We must continue down the slope. We can vary our speed somewhat, but if we stop for too long we will get cold or hungry; if we ski too fast, we may have a serious fall. Part of the pleasure is in not being able to control or predict every circumstance we will meet.
We don’t control which loved ones come into our lives and which ones go or whether we become ill or stay healthy. We don’t control life’s opportunities. We can control how we choose to respond to these transitions. Whatever happens can be used for growth and we can commit ourselves to use all experiences that way.
Today, I will not try to control change but will choose to use whatever happens for growth.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.
Posted in: parents of recovering addicts
The integration of family therapy of substance abuse treatment is relatively rare. Family therapy in substance abuse treatment helps families become aware of their own needs and provides genuine, enduring healing. Family therapy works to shift power to the parental figures in a family and to improve communication. Other goals will vary according to which member of the family is abusing substances.
Another reason that family therapy is effective in substance abuse treatment is that it provides a neutral forum in which family members meet to solve problems. Such a rational venue for expression and negotiation often is missing from the family lives of people with a substance problem.
In the supportive environment of family therapy, this uneasy silence can be broken in ways that feel emotionally safe. As the therapist brokers, mediates, and restructures conflicts among family members, emotionally charged topics are allowed to come into the open. The therapist helps ensure that every family member is accorded a voice. In the safe environment of therapy, pent-up feelings such as fear and concern can be expressed, identified, and validated.
Often family members are surprised to learn that others share their feelings, and new lines of communication open up. Family members gain a broader and more accurate perspective of what they are experiencing, which can be empowering and may provide enough energy to create positive change. Each of these improvements in family life and coping skills is a highly desirable outcome, whether or not the identified patient’s drug or alcohol problems are immediately resolved. It is clearly a step forward for the family of a person abusing substances to develop a stable, functional environment within which abstinence can be sustained.
At Purple, Inc., we are committed to helping the whole family heal. As part of our men’s residential treatment program, we offer a bi-weekly family group session. This ongoing process allows the family to grow and change during the entire treatment process. Joel Bagley, the family coordinator, can be reached at 770.962.8215 for more information about our family program or visit our website at http://www.purpletreatment.com.
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Creativity is so delicate a flower that praise tends to make it bloom, while discouragement often nips it in the bud.
—Alex Osborn
A garden of flowers blooming is a beautiful sight to see. Through the green leaves surrounding a tulip we see hints of yellow or pink or red. Each day the flowers greet us with their radiant color. Yet, a sudden frost would wilt and fade the flowers.
Each time we create something new with our talents we are like a young flower opening. Whether we draw or write or sew or play a musical instrument, all creativity has this in common. Appreciation from those around us is like sunshine for the flowers. Harsh criticism, however, is like the cold air - it wilts and deadens our desire to create.
We all need warm encouragement for our endeavors, and we can give as well as receive it. In this way, creativity can bloom in our homes and our friendships, bringing a garden full of color and delight into our lives.
What encouragement can I offer to someone near me?
From Today’s Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America.